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In reply to the discussion: What is the purpose of this group? [View all]

The empressof all

(29,104 posts)
17. We are in similar circumstances
Tue Dec 13, 2011, 12:43 AM
Dec 2011

I know many in my family worry that I'm depressed or something must be wrong with me because I'm "not productive"...I'm lucky that at this point in life I no longer need to work. I can blissfully do what I want when I want within limited confines. (Other than not enough money...Why can't I win the lotto?)

I have a loving spouse and child and a few good friends who accept me as I am.

I have no need to run hither and yon to social events or involve myself in random activities just to demonstrate that I am alive.

I spent most of my adult life helping others in my profession...and I'm done. I just don't feel a need to get up and do it every day. Thank you very much....I'd rather read a book or watch a stupid tv show.

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It is self-defined. murielm99 Dec 2011 #1
I understand about the healing time. xmas74 Dec 2011 #7
Your choice catchnrelease Dec 2011 #2
I don't know if I'm actually a loner. xmas74 Dec 2011 #8
We are in similar circumstances The empressof all Dec 2011 #17
All of the above. LWolf Dec 2011 #3
I don't really have a version of "loner". xmas74 Dec 2011 #4
I think most loners would concur, LWolf Dec 2011 #5
I'm not a big fan of neighbors xmas74 Dec 2011 #6
Neighbors get kinda forced on one by default. One can't really go around a building RKP5637 Dec 2011 #12
I live in an older neighborhood. xmas74 Dec 2011 #13
IMO it's become a very strange country, particularly over the past decade or so. n/t RKP5637 Dec 2011 #14
It really has. xmas74 Dec 2011 #15
I sort of had that house... marginlized Dec 2011 #16
that would be heaven to me n/t shanti Dec 2011 #21
Me, too. freshwest Dec 2011 #27
For me, it's serious introversion - being drained by crowds and restored by quiet time. iris27 Dec 2011 #9
I understand about being taken advantage of. xmas74 Dec 2011 #10
A chance to talk with people who share how you feel about certain things. bemildred Dec 2011 #11
I live alone by choice. marginlized Dec 2011 #18
runs in the family shanti Dec 2011 #22
For me being a loner is a choice because I have the option of not being one. Speck Tater Dec 2011 #19
I like those endless activities. marginlized Dec 2011 #24
definitely self defined shanti Dec 2011 #20
I have few around me. xmas74 Dec 2011 #23
Can one be an extroverted loner? nadine_mn Dec 2011 #25
Yes. That's me. DevonRex Dec 2011 #26
Wow, public speaking ... I'm a Dale Carnegie dropout. marginlized Dec 2011 #28
I love speaking in public - crowds of 1 to 100+ nadine_mn Dec 2011 #29
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