History of Feminism

MadrasT

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9. I have told the story before

Fri Jan 24, 2014, 04:59 PM

Jan 2014

About a group of male friends who were *shocked* when they went out for a night out on the town, and kept encountering groups of women who, according to them, were all dressed up fancy and made-up and yet did not seem to want to interact with men (i.e., did not respond to their pickup attempts).

I was like... "Um... just because women 'dress up' and put on make up does not mean that activity is happening because they want male attention."

This concept was apparently news to them.

They just couldn't process the idea of "fancied up women" who weren't responding to male attempts to connect.

I was like, "Yo, were y'all born YESTERDAY? HOW IS THIS NEWS? Maybe they were just having their own fun and were not out trolling for dudes?"

These guys are in their 40s/50s, they aren't kids.

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I Only Cut My Hair Because I hate You [View all] cinnabonbon Jan 2014 OP

Oh A-MEN to that! tblue Jan 2014 #1

I loved that line about warpaint so much cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #3

!!!!! redqueen Jan 2014 #2

I know!! cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #4

And this. This x 10^100: redqueen Jan 2014 #5

That is the point we need to drive home, because I do think that cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #6

I have told the story before MadrasT Jan 2014 #9

LOL, yes... getting dressed up is just fun sometimes. redqueen Jan 2014 #12

Yep. For the most part, women choose to comply with patriarchal beauty norms. redqueen Jan 2014 #11

Some many men are shocked to hear this Sweet Freedom Jan 2014 #7

That's just creepy, if not downright scary. redqueen Jan 2014 #13

Maybe it's just Texas. Sweet Freedom Jan 2014 #17

I'm a native Texan :) redqueen Jan 2014 #18

Many, many moons ago I cut my hair short, my boyfriend, at the time, said he liked it longer.... all american girl Jan 2014 #8

My 14-year-old did rhe same, and she loves it too. redqueen Jan 2014 #19

I really enjoyed this. MadrasT Jan 2014 #10

I Have to wonder how they feel the first time they meet a lesbian cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #16

The same subset of men also seem to hate lesbians. MadrasT Jan 2014 #21

the kind of stupidity that can only be taught, geek tragedy Jan 2014 #14

I hope you're right cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #15

For most of my life, I kept my hair long, really long, Lunacee_2013 Jan 2014 #20

I am so glad cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #23

Thanks! Lunacee_2013 Jan 2014 #25

Oddly enough, I think Lunacee_2013 Jan 2014 #22

Hey, I am the last one to complain if the guys cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #24

I think they might have missed the whole point of the blog post though.... Lunacee_2013 Jan 2014 #28

Then that is their loss cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #29

If they didn't work so hard at missing so many points redqueen Jan 2014 #32

many years ago (circa '65) i got my hair cut. DesertFlower Jan 2014 #26

Are you kidding me cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #30

Son of Sam murders HockeyMom Jan 2014 #27

oh man I had completely forgotten about SOS cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #31