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seaglass

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31. I'm glad you spoke out, I remember that situation and believe you had support from other women

Tue Jan 28, 2014, 02:53 PM

Jan 2014

in the feeling of being unwelcome and that is too bad.

From my DU experience it seems silly to pretend that gay males can't be sexist - I mean Pab got banned from DU for being a misogynist not too long ago.

That being said, in my personal experiences with gay male friends I didn't experience any sexism - we were friends and equals, no derogatory names or unwanted groping.

I did once go to a gay nightclub with one of my friends years ago and one of the rooms of the club had a comedian whose routine was all about putting down women, some of the things he said were really hateful. I never considered that some gay men do not like women as people until then, I still think it is a minority and that sexism from straight males is much more common.

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A gay man calls out misogyny in gay male subculture [View all] BainsBane Jan 2014 OP

to the best of my knowledge that is not true in my relationships, but then I hollysmom Jan 2014 #1

I've only experienced a bit of this in real life BainsBane Jan 2014 #2

the brush seems overly broad here geek tragedy Jan 2014 #3

Considering the author is himself a gay man BainsBane Jan 2014 #4

very possibly, but i'm always suspicious of cultural pieces that geek tragedy Jan 2014 #5

It's not just based on television footage. nt redqueen Jan 2014 #6

How do they know the women are straight? BainsBane Jan 2014 #10

obviously gay men can be sexist and practice sexism, I certainly geek tragedy Jan 2014 #16

And so can lesbians. pnwmom Jan 2014 #22

I don't think the author is accusing all gay men of acting this way. pnwmom Jan 2014 #18

I'm really glad to see this. redqueen Jan 2014 #7

I knew that already, but the article is a very good read. cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #8

why can't human beings treat other human beings with a modicaum of respect, a tiny amount Tuesday Afternoon Jan 2014 #9

Every geoup has its jerks, but please do not blame everyone in a group for the actions of uppityperson Jan 2014 #11

Firstly, the author is a gay man. He isn't blaming anyone. BainsBane Jan 2014 #12

Are you saying all gay men are misogynistic? Or that it is a "cultural tendency" of gay men to uppityperson Jan 2014 #13

No, I am saying we live in a sexist, racist and homophobic culture BainsBane Jan 2014 #14

Thanks for the clarification. Bigotry is so ingrained many do not recognize it most of the time. uppityperson Jan 2014 #15

Yes! There is this view that gay people are too enlightened to be sexist, pnwmom Jan 2014 #20

Where are you getting that? That's not what the poster is saying, or the article in the OP. pnwmom Jan 2014 #27

Who is extrapolating this to the whole group? It's written by a gay man pnwmom Jan 2014 #19

Start by looking at the title of the thread. "gay male subculture". uppityperson Jan 2014 #23

I guess we're reading that differently. I read that as "a subculture of the larger gay community." pnwmom Jan 2014 #25

Even if it did, that is not the same as saying "all gay men are misogynsits" BainsBane Jan 2014 #26

Do you know why this article got locked in GD? n/t pnwmom Jan 2014 #17

It looks like the OP was PPR'd BainsBane Jan 2014 #21

infovirio, here is their profile link. uppityperson Jan 2014 #24

FWIW, if anyone is interested, it was a caver uppityperson Jan 2014 #34

I see the poster was. Not the writer of the article, though, pnwmom Jan 2014 #36

I agree, just thought some might be interested in seeing who posted that and was banned uppityperson Jan 2014 #37

I was going to say that the resistance to discussing this issue is bizarre. redqueen Jan 2014 #28

Behavior like this is why I spend virtually no time in the LGBT group here. Ms. Toad Jan 2014 #29

That whole situation is disturbing. redqueen Jan 2014 #30

The entire incident was disturbing. Ms. Toad Jan 2014 #32

I'm glad you spoke out, I remember that situation and believe you had support from other women seaglass Jan 2014 #31

Yes. I had support from other women, Ms. Toad Jan 2014 #33

I've heard that many lesbians feel unwelcome there BainsBane Jan 2014 #35

How do you mean? I thought f/m terminology had split into xommon useage of uppityperson Jan 2014 #39

Do you mean the part about gay and heteronormative? BainsBane Jan 2014 #40

yes, thank you. That post was jury hidden, 6-0 as it should have been.It was both uppityperson Jan 2014 #41

Actually the post I'm thinking of wasn't hidden BainsBane Jan 2014 #42

It is also not a safe place for children of gays to post on sensitive issues. pnwmom Jan 2014 #38