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Squinch

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9. That judge seems like a gem. He read between the lines, and made provisions to
Sat Feb 8, 2014, 09:56 AM
Feb 2014

keep her safe in the future, and he did it based on an astute reading of the evidence that was available. That is a rare thing.

But the problem, of course, is that it often does boil down to "he said, she said," and pedophiles know this full well and exploit it. The justice system has no way to redress that intrinsic problem with sexual assault cases.

In terms of evidence and the law, we have what we have. It will always favor the pedophile, because evidence is hard to come by. And in this case, Allen seems to have thrown all of his money and influence into smearing Farrow and muddling Dylan's story. Much of his behavior, in my opinion, points to guilt: his behavior to her before the incident was creepy. Then, too, you don't further traumatize your beloved child if you really love her in this situation. You don't feed her trauma to the tabloid sharks, even if it is to clear your own name. You don't try to rip apart the support system that she does have while she is going through the trauma. In short, I believe that if he were innocent, and if he actually loved his child, he would have been concerned with her rather than himself while it was unfolding. Even if he believed in his innocence, if he loved his child, he would have worked toward her well being, rather than her further trauma.

But though these things point to a man who is willing to use his child in terrible ways, it still doesn't constitute proof. To say that we don't know what happened is still technically accurate.

The rape culture is built into the judicial system that way, and especially for those victims who cannot represent themselves, like children. I can't think of a way to change that.

But I am frankly terrified for those two children he is raising with Soon-Yi.

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Not if they don't want to believe. elleng Feb 2014 #1
The vast majority of cases of rape are real /nt lostincalifornia Feb 2014 #2
Yet why every time a case arises BainsBane Feb 2014 #3
Sex is, and always has been, a somewhat dangerous pastime. reusrename Feb 2014 #4
It is a serious mistake to conflate sex and rape BainsBane Feb 2014 #5
Yes, it's a very serious mistake. reusrename Feb 2014 #6
Hold on BainsBane Feb 2014 #7
I agree with most of what you said, so I'll just address where we disagree. reusrename Feb 2014 #8
A moral issue of what is appropriate BainsBane Feb 2014 #23
Are you saying rape victims are often disbelieved because *rarely*, rape cases are used redqueen Feb 2014 #11
Indeed. BainsBane Feb 2014 #25
Yes. That's exactly the point I am making. reusrename Feb 2014 #28
My point was simply that the vast majority of people wo are raped or report rape are valid. What lostincalifornia Feb 2014 #10
I hope you're right about the majority of DU BainsBane Feb 2014 #24
That judge seems like a gem. He read between the lines, and made provisions to Squinch Feb 2014 #9
"But I am frankly terrified for those two children he is raising with Soon-Yi." Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #14
well-said n/t zazen Feb 2014 #26
Face It, Baines - Some people love to wallow in it. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #12
And some will always believe a man over a girl or woman BainsBane Feb 2014 #13
There are a few on here that, yes ... if you or sea said "water is wet" they Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #15
Typically there are no links BainsBane Feb 2014 #16
yes, the peanut gallery. Those few that do provide links, I have more respect for them. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #17
If someone is on topic, cool BainsBane Feb 2014 #18
This = Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #19
If Dylan Farrow was a boy instead of a girl, do you think the accusations would Sheldon Cooper Feb 2014 #20
Yes BainsBane Feb 2014 #21
if the molester was a woman instead of a man..... lol, nt seabeyond Feb 2014 #22
No. Agschmid Feb 2014 #27
Yes. laundry_queen Feb 2014 #32
Obviously not gaspee Feb 2014 #29
Some of them are just women-hating trolls. They don't bother me as much as the ones Squinch Feb 2014 #31
Rape is almost legal gollygee Feb 2014 #30
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