Interfaith Group

In most instances, rabbis are not willing to convert someone whose spouse is not interested in converting. Their fear is that the conversion will bring turmoil to the marriage and they don't want to be a part of anything that goes between spouses.

But the rabbi (whom I believe handled your case horribly) should still be open to allow you to at least take classes and to participate in the synagogue, regardless.

If you ask me I would say this rabbi is a jerk.

There is no excuse for not allowing you to participate and to learn in classes.

In any case, you should never join a congregation that doesn't make you feel welcome and I am sure there are other rabbis who would let you join the community and be part of it.