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highplainsdem

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38. A belated happy birthday, MineralMan - and I hope your birthday yesterday had some real joy, that
Wed Jul 30, 2025, 01:23 PM
Wednesday

you celebrated with loved ones, even if you feel tired today.

I'm younger than you, but like many others replying here, there are parallels in what we've experienced.

I hit - thought I'd hit - maximum tiredness myself after years of 24/7 caregiving, and I added stupid feelings of guilt to it beating myself up for not having been able to get my mom physically healthy again, in her 90s, despite her having the family heart problems, and a very rare swallowing disorder, and finally both vascular dementia and Alzheimer's. I remember lots of nights with less than 5 hours' sleep, and a physical therapy aide there after Mom broke a hip telling me I was trying to do the work of 7 or 8 people. I still thought I could, and it was mostly physical exhaustion, though worsened by guilt and self-recrimination. I would've probably ended up sick myself if I hadn't known a lot about diet, exercise, and coping with stress.

Then, after she'd passed and I'd gone through the usual caregiver mourning and self-questioning (which I'm now trying to help a cousin through after my aunt's death), I thought I was ready to pick up some parts of my life that had been set aside because of necessary caregiving.

Only to soon see what damage generative AI could do. Huge threat to so many people. In fact, for a while it seemed much more of a threat than Trump was, because it seemed less likely a couple of years ago that Trump would ever be back in the White House and consolidating power as much as he has. I remember George Soros naming AI and climate change, in that order, as the greatest threats we faced, back in 2023.

I'm not against tech advances. I had a PC and laser printer in the 1980s, first got online then before there was a world wide web, and thought it was wonderful. But I wasn't blind to later problems with the internet and social media, and I realized genAI was the most harmful non-military tech we'd seen, the last thing we needed.

Just as Trump was the last type of politician we needed.

I'm not as physically tired as I was during that time of 24/7 caregiving and minimal sleep. But I am really pissed off that instead of focusing on what I'd prefer to focus on, there are crises that demand attention, and that make it important to try to make others aware of them.

I do know younger generations are aware of those crises, even if our US media might not be making us aware of that. I see news outlets in other countries that put more emphasis on those issues - whether Trump or AI or climate change or the insane dictators and warmongers we hate - than mainstream US media tend to. And that gives me hope, and hope is invaluable. It sustains people, even through long struggles.

On a personal level, it makes me feel less tired.

And I might even find a bit more time to focus on those things I'd prefer to focus all my time and energy on, if there wasn't all the damn news about Trump and AI and psychopathic warmongers.

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MLK said, "The arc of the moral universe is long but it bends toward justice." Ocelot II Wednesday #1
I agree. We should be farther along that arc. MineralMan Wednesday #2
I have always loved that quote (in my opinion one of the best, and most poignant, ever) stopdiggin Wednesday #8
I had a patient who was a quadrapalegic Hornedfrog2000 Yesterday #83
LOL popsdenver Wednesday #57
I don't understand your LOL -- this is not a laughing matter Hekate 15 hrs ago #89
NOPE popsdenver 11 hrs ago #91
That quote from MLK never made any sense before and it doesn't now NoRethugFriends Wednesday #76
This message was self-deleted by its author Mblaze Wednesday #3
I turned 80 in Dec 2024 AverageOldGuy Wednesday #4
We worked very hard Mblaze Wednesday #5
I'm 75 and when I was 11 years old multigraincracker Wednesday #6
... emulatorloo Wednesday #7
sorry you are feeling tired and down Kali Wednesday #9
I turned 79 this summer. Biophilic Wednesday #10
dear mm. ever since the devistatimg kerry and edwards losss , i have been at a loss. AllaN01Bear Wednesday #11
I am feeling much the same way PatSeg Wednesday #12
right there with you.... markie Wednesday #13
Yes, we carry on. MineralMan Wednesday #14
I was actually thinking this morning... Trueblue Texan Wednesday #30
I was born in 1949. Scruffy1 Wednesday #15
Yes. That's what I have done since 1960. MineralMan Wednesday #16
Freedom Is a Constant Struggle struggle4progress Wednesday #80
I'm 81. Your life and mine have a lot of parallels. "Old age ain't for sissies" Bette Davis Ping Tung Wednesday #17
Big K&R for a Big DU Contributor Martin Eden Wednesday #18
Thanks for sharing your hard earned wisdom and perspective! A bit younger, but I shared your disappointment. I have wiggs Wednesday #19
Post removed Post removed Wednesday #20
Uh. no, thanks! MineralMan Wednesday #21
Enjoy your short stay at DU calguy Wednesday #22
I have a feeling you may be a bit too liberal for this website BWdem4life Wednesday #23
You're a real jerk, aren't you Grim Chieftain Wednesday #24
It sure looks like it wendyb-NC Wednesday #25
Happy Birthday 😀 malaise Wednesday #26
Corporate power and capitalism will not allow the kind of progress we yearn for. BWdem4life Wednesday #27
When I was in high school, if a girl got pregnant out of wedlock she had two choices. totodeinhere Wednesday #28
Seeing the same stuff... Trueblue Texan Wednesday #29
On the subject of children and grandchildren popsdenver Wednesday #58
Happy birthday . . . I think. I'm 4 years behind you, but your post feels like going back in the time machine. Vinca Wednesday #31
Thanks for the reply! MineralMan Wednesday #33
Thank you for your heart felt post MineralMan. 1WorldHope Wednesday #32
You have done more than most. At some point, our role becomes to advise the younger LoisB Wednesday #34
Happy Birthday Mineral Man lostincalifornia Wednesday #35
Not as happy as I might have liked, I'm afraid. MineralMan Wednesday #36
Thanks for the great history, MM! I've been reading you... keep_left Wednesday #37
Thanks for your thoughtful reply. MineralMan Wednesday #39
A belated happy birthday, MineralMan - and I hope your birthday yesterday had some real joy, that highplainsdem Wednesday #38
Right there with you. I grew up in the BA, home to the hippies, LGBTQ, alternative lifestyles. 58Sunliner Wednesday #40
Don't feel badly, MM. OldBaldy1701E Wednesday #41
Right there with you Figarosmom Wednesday #42
I feel your pain. riverbendviewgal Wednesday #43
I have a quotation for you nuxvomica Wednesday #44
Congrats on a good life - so far. SleeplessinSoCal Wednesday #45
Soon to be 86 and I have those same feelings! young_at_heart Wednesday #46
I am happy that you remain mentally fit and hale enough to share that with us... Moostache Wednesday #47
These are difficult times. No question about it. MineralMan Wednesday #50
Thank you for all of your service! Tbear Wednesday #48
Excellent post MM. It really is a cruel and unraveling Evolve Dammit Wednesday #49
Truly, we live in interesting times. MineralMan Wednesday #51
Ironically, it feels like what my Dad and other family members fought against since the civil war. Evolve Dammit Wednesday #53
I think it is always the same fight. Always has been. MineralMan Wednesday #55
MM and other Boomers at DU JustAnotherGen Wednesday #52
Honestly, we were opening doors for ourselves, mostly. MineralMan Wednesday #54
Until 2023 JustAnotherGen Wednesday #59
You and I have been on similar paths our whole lives. One key difference: we did have one child. usaf-vet Wednesday #56
You've done very well, I'd say. MineralMan Wednesday #60
Yes. I wrote DU last week about having the same depressing review, see link Dock_Yard Wednesday #61
Thanks for this! madamesilverspurs Wednesday #62
I am also 80. Codifer Wednesday #63
My father was a B-17 co-pilot in England, WWII, fighting a nazi dictator Number9Dream Wednesday #64
Dear MM, sinkingfeeling Wednesday #65
My best wishes to you. MineralMan Wednesday #73
All too relatable, minus the escape to Costa Rica Hekate Wednesday #75
I'm right there with you. Katinfl Wednesday #66
Throughout history social progress has ebbed & flowed. It's never been a simple linear progression. CaptainTruth Wednesday #67
The end of my story remains as yet unwritten DFW Wednesday #68
That is jaw-droppingly gorgeous. Thx so much for this production & post. ❤️ Hekate Wednesday #77
I had imagined in my head MANY years ago DFW Wednesday #79
The Parody Project put it out on their channel as sort of a breather from politics. DFW Yesterday #84
Dear MineralMan, if I may JMCKUSICK Wednesday #69
May it be so. MineralMan Wednesday #74
You accomplished much. creeksneakers2 Wednesday #70
Nothing Is Wasted. / You speak for me, MM. Your life has been so much more adventurous than mine ... Hekate Wednesday #71
When the Ship Comes In struggle4progress Wednesday #72
This is one of the most amazing posts.. Permanut Wednesday #78
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Thank You. You've had a great Life. BurnDoubt Wednesday #82
To Everyone Who Visited This Thread: Thank you so much! MineralMan 22 hrs ago #85
And what changed during your 80 and my 78 years? Septua 22 hrs ago #86
This Hekate 20 hrs ago #88
You may be disappointed, but don't be discouraged vanessa_ca 21 hrs ago #87
I'm 76 and feel I have a job to do to meet these times The Blue Flower 14 hrs ago #90
It's a dark place in our history for certain Septua 8 hrs ago #92
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