I started my career in social work dealing with domestic -- or family -- violence. Children, parents, spouses/SO, and a few grandparents. Mainly children & teens who were neglected and/or abused. Many of those cases ended up with kids being put in foster care. Without a single exception, every single one wanted to return to the abusive situation. This was almost always true with abused spouses. They identified their being in terms of their abusers.
Judging people is a common sport these days. It is one thing, in my opinion, to judge an abuser ..... an Epstein, Maxwell, and felon in the White House. Or the Stephen Millers of the world. It is quite another to blame victims. And I did not say "every observation about someone in this case is blaming the victim," any more than you have.
Malcolm X said don't judge people for not knowing something you know, for there was a time when you didn't know it, either. One of the greatest things about Malcolm was that his ministry wasn't with the high & mighty, but to rescue broken people, most often found on the margins of society. That included drug addicts and people in jail. The victims of Epstein, no matter how strong and intelligent, still have to deal with the incarcertion of their being in years past.
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