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Mark.b2

(622 posts)
28. My niece got married last November...
Sun Aug 24, 2025, 12:02 AM
Sunday

here in NW Arkansas. My sister and her husband put in just over $30k. It was fine. I’d say there were about 125-150 people there. It wasnt anything over-the-top, but it was too much for my taste. The wedding was at 4 pm, so that meant a dinner at the reception (the biggest cost). They went with a buffet catered by a local BBQ restaurant. Some would consider that low-brow, but I thought it was well-received. They also provided beer and wine with a cash bar for those wanting liquor. Dancing and a DJ commenced after dinner…at the time my wife and I took our leave!

I wish weddings were more like those from my earlier years in the 60s and 70s—ceremony at the church at like 2 PM on a non-football Saturday with cake, punch and butter mints in the ajoining fellowship hall. Everything done in about an hour-and-a-half and the newlyweds knocking boots by five. Everyone is hppy!

Here’s the deal couples need to realize: Most people dont enjoy going to weddings. Most of those that do go, do so out of a felt obligation. Most people are joyful when they learn a couple are having a small, intimate wedding that they dont have to attend.

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Nope. My daughter paid for her own wedding. SheltieLover Saturday #1
Congratulations & Kudos to them! RamblingRose Saturday #2
Thx! 10 yrs ago. SheltieLover Saturday #5
You're right--better to use the money as a down payment Bayard Saturday #3
My wife and I got married on my parents' front lawn in July 24 years ago. True Dough Saturday #4
Mr. Diamond and I had exactly 15 immediate family wedding guests. Diamond_Dog Saturday #6
Tell them to keep a secret and elope... ZDU Saturday #7
Our daughters learned very early on that we would Ninga Saturday #8
We have 2 grown daughters and have poli-junkie Saturday #9
Having it in Miami will keep our family & friends away so that'll half the cost. RamblingRose Saturday #11
We paid for it ourselves Nictuku Saturday #10
Too funny.. cilla4progress Saturday #14
I Loved Gunne Sax dresses! I had one for prom & homecoming. RamblingRose Saturday #15
I used to go to the Gunne Sax factory in SF kimbutgar Saturday #19
Wow! Had no idea! justaprogressive Saturday #22
I've never understood why anyone would want to pay big bucks for their wedding. Half the time they Vinca Saturday #12
If you can & want to pay towards a wedding, make the couple sign an iron clad contract: NO DIVORCE or pay $ back Attilatheblond Saturday #13
My mom would say "The bigger they are the harder they fall." My neighbor was married at The Biltmore, divorced 5 years RamblingRose Saturday #16
Your mom sounds like a pretty down to earth observer of trends Attilatheblond Saturday #17
I think Rebl2 Sunday #32
A wedding in May Marthe48 Saturday #18
My mom is pretty upset about them catering to his grandmother since she's the same age. She had offered to help w/ some RamblingRose Saturday #24
Those getting married need to understand it's about the marriage Grim Chieftain Saturday #20
I told my daughters I'd pay for them to elope to Vegas. Dulcinea Saturday #21
A fun story about our wedding was the photographer we hired. He was a dentist & did weddings for extra income. RamblingRose Saturday #23
This message was self-deleted by its author Skittles Saturday #25
A lot now DetroitLegalBeagle Saturday #26
'Haven't done any research yet,' elleng Saturday #27
My niece got married last November... Mark.b2 Sunday #28
I'd be inclined to feign disinterest. Or poverty. Aussie105 Sunday #29
They've been dating for about 8 years & moved to Baltimore together in 2021. His one sister does not like her. She RamblingRose Sunday #30
My husband Rebl2 Sunday #31
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