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Aussie105

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29. I'd be inclined to feign disinterest. Or poverty.

Reply to RamblingRose (Original post)

Sun Aug 24, 2025, 01:01 AM

21 hrs ago

If money needs to be involved, get them to prove the relationship is legit.
Offer them $10K to be paid 5 years down the track!
(Yes, I'm nasty like that.)

Marriage is the easy bit.
Done it twice myself. Registry office, one witness, minimal costs, no party.
Making it work long term, well, that is hard.
You don't get an award at the start of a marathon, after all. At the end, maybe, if you are good enough.

Seriously, if you have doubts, you really feel it isn't good use of your money. $20K? Jeez!

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Our daughter is getting engaged & is looking for us to foot the bill. $$$$$$ [View all] RamblingRose Yesterday OP

Nope. My daughter paid for her own wedding. SheltieLover Yesterday #1

Congratulations & Kudos to them! RamblingRose Yesterday #2

Thx! 10 yrs ago. SheltieLover Yesterday #5

You're right--better to use the money as a down payment Bayard Yesterday #3

My wife and I got married on my parents' front lawn in July 24 years ago. True Dough Yesterday #4

Mr. Diamond and I had exactly 15 immediate family wedding guests. Diamond_Dog Yesterday #6

Tell them to keep a secret and elope... ZDU Yesterday #7

Our daughters learned very early on that we would Ninga Yesterday #8

We have 2 grown daughters and have poli-junkie Yesterday #9

Having it in Miami will keep our family & friends away so that'll half the cost. RamblingRose Yesterday #11

We paid for it ourselves Nictuku Yesterday #10

Too funny.. cilla4progress Yesterday #14

I Loved Gunne Sax dresses! I had one for prom & homecoming. RamblingRose Yesterday #15

I used to go to the Gunne Sax factory in SF kimbutgar Yesterday #19

Wow! Had no idea! justaprogressive Yesterday #22

I've never understood why anyone would want to pay big bucks for their wedding. Half the time they Vinca Yesterday #12

If you can & want to pay towards a wedding, make the couple sign an iron clad contract: NO DIVORCE or pay $ back Attilatheblond Yesterday #13

My mom would say "The bigger they are the harder they fall." My neighbor was married at The Biltmore, divorced 5 years RamblingRose Yesterday #16

Your mom sounds like a pretty down to earth observer of trends Attilatheblond Yesterday #17

I think Rebl2 11 hrs ago #32

A wedding in May Marthe48 Yesterday #18

My mom is pretty upset about them catering to his grandmother since she's the same age. She had offered to help w/ some RamblingRose Yesterday #24

Those getting married need to understand it's about the marriage Grim Chieftain Yesterday #20

I told my daughters I'd pay for them to elope to Vegas. Dulcinea Yesterday #21

A fun story about our wedding was the photographer we hired. He was a dentist & did weddings for extra income. RamblingRose Yesterday #23

This message was self-deleted by its author Skittles 22 hrs ago #25

A lot now DetroitLegalBeagle 22 hrs ago #26

'Haven't done any research yet,' elleng 22 hrs ago #27

My niece got married last November... Mark.b2 22 hrs ago #28

I'd be inclined to feign disinterest. Or poverty. Aussie105 21 hrs ago #29

They've been dating for about 8 years & moved to Baltimore together in 2021. His one sister does not like her. She RamblingRose 12 hrs ago #30

My husband Rebl2 11 hrs ago #31